Sunday, February 21, 2016
The fuss factor
Recently I have been reading a lot about "working moms" and "stay at home moms". Women and mothers from every corner of the world writing about how easy or difficult or challenging or peace giving it is to be what they are. Number of blogs and forums on which this topic is nowadays debated or dissected is surprising to me. When I was a child my mother was a stay at home mom. Its just that I never knew that term. I believed that she was much more than just a person who stayed home besides being a mother. I believed that she was the core star of our solar system. She was the one around whom our livelihood revolved and nourished. She was the life and light of our existence. Even my dad's existence. She was everything but never just a stay at home mom. So frankly speaking I really do hate it when we now refer to mothers who bring up children without earning any money of their own as SAH moms. Likewise...the term working moms is also equally annoying. To define any kind of mother in such cliche words is truly not worthy of what a mother actually is. Adding adjectives or discriptions such as these is itself a bad idea. A mother is a mother. Even if she works to earn her own money or not. Its her choice based upon various attributes that make her life. But what I really want to highlight in this post is that my mother never had a problem accepting that she preferred to be home for us. She never wished to work outside our home. She was happy with her decision and even proud of it. Today I find women complaining about not having the chance to step out to work or not getting enough time with their children. They are caught up in their own decisions. They don't read their own mind well. They are confused because of the society we now live in. They don't know what kind of decision will be accepted by the society. If they happily express that they are glad to be home they will be looked down upon. On the contrary even if they announce how exciting their careers are, they will be judged. This is truly sickening. Why are not we able to live a simple life anymore where there is no fuss about anything.....everyone is just being themselves without pretending. Like our parents lived. When there was no need to prove. I am too caught up in the fuss factor of today's society. But I wish to break free. Do you too?